If you’re looking for a powerful way to boost your dating life – text messaging could very well be the answer. Even though text message flirting is still quite new in the dating game, there are some people out there who are using it very well… and there are a lot more people who are using it very badly! Sending flirty texts can be very effective when trying to build an interesting tension between you and a potential partner, or even someone you’re already dating.
So let’s get started with a few tips on how to heighten your results with text messaging, that will add an extra layer of spice and intrigue that you just can’t get through other types of communication:
Keep Messages Light And Fun
One of the main advantages of text messages is they’re a short, quick way to get in touch with someone no matter what they’re doing. But while this is often a good thing, when used badly texts can be very damaging!
When sending texts, you have a small amount of time to talk to someone in a way that gives them a window into what kind of person you are, and what they could expect from you. If your messages are always depressing or even slightly boring, what do you think that says about you as a person?
Always remember to keep your texts light and fun! Here’s some main topics to never bring into your text conversations:
- Bad things that have happened at work – you don’t want to come across as someone who’ll always be moaning about how much you don’t like your job when you meet up in person,
- Ex partners and people that you’ve dated – while it can always be funny to relive some funny/bad dates, you’re best to do this with friends until you get to know this person more
- Moaning about your family or friends – again, you wouldn’t want to be stuck around a negative person so don’t come across that way to other people in your texts,
- Religious or political views – these topics, and many others like it, are just too serious for simple text flirting messages,
- Questionably jokes you’ve heard that could be found insulting to some (this person might not have the same sense of humor as you)
And if you ever feel the other person starting to bring up any of these – quickly look for a way to change the subject, or share a joke to lighten the mood and swiftly get back onto more fun topics.
So for example you could say:
“I was texting you to have some fun… what happened!? Luckily I’ve got this awesome sense of humor to save us 😛 like this one time when… (Insert your funny story/joke here)”
Try Not To Tlk Lik Dis In Dem
You and your friends might be completely fluent in the language of ‘text talk’ – but if the person you’re looking to date isn’t, you get a lot of very confused replies from them when you send them these types of text. In the worst case they might even cut the conversation short if they can’t make out what you’re trying to tell them.
They also might draw a lot of conclusions based just on the way you’re texting – trying to look too busy, lazy communicator, etc… any of these things sound good? At the start at least, play it safe and use a few more letters when you’re talking to avoid any confusion with lots of abbreviations.
Give It Some Time
When texting someone new, try not to reply instantly to every single message they send. As well as the old classic of “making you look more interesting” (I’m not too convinced of that one :P) it also gives the conversation a bit more pace.
If you both are in the mood for quick fire texting it can be good to get instant replies and sometimes they’re even necessary. But if you take your time to really think about what you’re saying in the messages it can give you both more things to say so the conversation won’t run out of gas too quickly.
Also, it might give you ideas for new things you could say, rather than simply replying to whatever the other person is saying.
Master Your Messaging!
If you want some more tips and tricks on how to bring added excitement your text message flirting, here’s some guides I found that can help increase text success for both men and women! There’s two sides to every coin remember, so men and women can both pick up new tips to boost their texting skills and make their messages a whole lot more memorable than any other potential partners.
To find out more about the guides and how they can help you…
In my next post, I’ll be sharing some more tips on how to use short, snappy messages to get a great response from the person you’re interested in! Including:
- How to use texts to create enticing dates,
- What to say when the other person takes ages to reply,
- How to handle situations where the conversations starting to drag or become boring,
- Exactly how to end things so that they can’t wait to hear from you again,
- And more!
Talk to you soon!
