{"id":837,"date":"2012-04-02T17:46:57","date_gmt":"2012-04-02T17:46:57","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.relationshipsdefined.com\/blog\/?p=837"},"modified":"2021-01-05T08:44:28","modified_gmt":"2021-01-05T08:44:28","slug":"take-power-from-dark-times","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.relationshipsdefined.com\/blog\/take-power-from-dark-times\/","title":{"rendered":"How To Take Power From Dark Times"},"content":{"rendered":"

It\u2019s already the start of April… and this year has already been an interesting one – it\u2019s only<\/em> 4 months in, but it\u2019s already<\/em> 1\/4 way through the year. Doesn\u2019t the way you phrase things make a huge difference to how they seem? Or a more accurate way would be to say \u2013 doesn\u2019t the way we look at things<\/em> make a huge difference to how they feel?<\/p>\r\n\r\n

Regain Control Of Anything<\/h2>\r\n\r\n

Having spent the end of last year and the early part of this year finishing my book and helping people who are struggling with their own relationships, I was finding more and more that people can be greatly helped by re-framing how they look at their situation. By just flipping something from a \u2018glass half empty\u2019 to a \u2018glass half full\u2019 mind-set, not only can you make a seemingly overwhelming situation much more manageable \u2013 you can also remind yourself that it\u2019s always possible to control your own life and the results you get back. It\u2019s great to get a good understanding of your own results \u2013 because this can mean that no matter where you think you are right now, your own life can always<\/b> be improved, and you are always<\/b> in control.<\/p>\r\n\r\n

4 Steps To Learn From Anything<\/h2>\r\n\r\n

I’ve spent quite a bit of time recently trying to think how we can best learn from sad events \u2013 how can you re-frame something that can be so sad or even as devastating as a breakup, or any other negative experience. When it doesn\u2019t feel fair, it can be difficult to see the light at all, let alone feel compelled to keep working to move in that positive direction. I\u2019d like to tell you my own way of dealing with negative events, and suggest that the best thing we can do to improve our own lives is to accept \u2013 reflect \u2013 reframe \u2013 and take action!<\/b><\/p>\r\n\r\n

In my next post I\u2019ll be going over what I mean by these points. This information has already put me back in the driver\u2019s seat for a number of situations this year, and I\u2019m sure it will help you out greatly too!<\/p>\r\n\r\n

It\u2019s good to be back, and talk soon!\r\nAmber<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"It\u2019s already the start of April… and this year has already been an interesting one – it\u2019s only 4 months in, but it\u2019s already 1\/4 way through the year. Doesn\u2019t the way you phrase things make a huge difference to how they seem? Or a more accurate way would be[…]","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":935,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_exactmetrics_skip_tracking":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_active":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_note":"","_exactmetrics_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[47],"tags":[100,101,106],"class_list":["post-837","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-relationship-advice","tag-get-a-positive-view","tag-improve-your-relationships","tag-relationship-advice"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.relationshipsdefined.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/837","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.relationshipsdefined.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.relationshipsdefined.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.relationshipsdefined.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.relationshipsdefined.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=837"}],"version-history":[{"count":7,"href":"https:\/\/www.relationshipsdefined.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/837\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":840,"href":"https:\/\/www.relationshipsdefined.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/837\/revisions\/840"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.relationshipsdefined.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/935"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.relationshipsdefined.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=837"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.relationshipsdefined.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=837"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.relationshipsdefined.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=837"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}